At 33 weeks, this might be the latest pregnancy announcement post that’s ever been… though it’s not really an “announcement”, as such, I just wanted to talk about it here!
So yes… In June last year I found out I was was expecting our second baby, which was something we’d hoped for very much. I can’t believe that it’s now seven months later! The time has flown by so quickly, which I keep being told is normal for your second pregnancy. It’s just a whole different thing this time around.
On the whole (so far) it’s been incredibly smooth. I spent the first 13 weeks or so feeling fairly grim, with the usual first trimester nausea and exhaustion, but after that physically I felt really good. I feel really lucky to have such smooth pregnancies – though even they come with their own niggles. Pregnancy is a beautifully complicated time, and it always amazes me how different each woman’s experience is and how our bodies respond.
For me, the recurring themes this time around have been tiredness, insomnia and heartburn! And, from abut 20 weeks, rib pain, which has been quite sore. I don’t really remember being this tired with Soren, but I guess having a pre-schooler while pregnant will do that to you. I keep having to remind myself that last time, if I felt tired I could just go and have a nap… I think I’ve had about three naps this pregnancy so far. (Sob sob).
I’ve also struggled a lot more with my emotions and anxiety this time round. Maybe it’s because of spending so much of it parenting solo, but it’s been bit of a surprise. I wanted this baby so much, and at first especially felt nothing but delight and excitement – which hasn’t changed; but not having any time or headspace to focus on it or look after myself in the way I did when pregnant with Soren left me feeling weirdly anxious for a large chunk of it. I’ve also felt slightly disconnected from the idea that very soon I’ll have a new baby.
Things are better now that we’re on the home straight, though. Reducing my hours at work and knowing that it’s not long until maternity leave starts has helped, as well as just talking things thought with Kris and my friends. My hormones seem finally to have settled too! I’ve still got raging heartburn and the rib pain, which I think is muscles separating (I know, gross) which makes sleeping difficult, but all in all I feel pretty good just now.
Crucially, the baby is also healthy. We had a growth scan at 28 weeks because the bump was measuring small, but it must have just been in a funny position as the scan came back completely normal. I loved the chance to see its little face again, and as Kris missed the 20 week scan it was nice for him, too.
So here we are, 7 weeks away (I hope!) from becoming a family of four. I’m so looking forward to it, and to finding out just who this little person that keeps kicking me so energetically is. I’m 90% sure it’s another boy, so much so that I haven’t really considered the fact it could just as easily be a girl! You can’t find out the gender of the baby in Shetland, though, so I’ll just have to wait. Which is kind of nice, anyway.
I’m fairly confident this will be our last baby, which is such a bittersweet thought, so I’m doing my best to soak up and enjoy these last few weeks. Pregnancy can be a challenging time, but it’s one I’m very grateful for.